Fathers suffer under old domestic violence laws

In the 1980s, laws were put into place nationwide to protect women and children from abusive relationships. However, now the laws that once were instituted for the purpose of protecting women and children from abuse have morphed into a giant loophole to allow fraud and gross abuse of power. These laws made no provisions for men or fathers who have been victimized by domestic violence. Domestic violence against men has been largely ignored and has radically increased. Case in point, the murder of Travis Alexander by his ex-girlfriend, Jodi Arias. This “loophole” has allowed vindictive women to use protective orders as a means to falsely report their child/ren’s fathers accusing them of some form of domestic violence and/or falsely report allegations of sexual abuse.

Everyday there are good fathers who work hard and sacrifice for their children, yet they are experiencing one of the most tragic and heartbreaking injustices of our time. The mother’s hatred for the child’s father is far more powerful than the love for their children. This hatred is spiraling out of control in our family courts and thousands of men in our state and hundreds of thousands nationwide are being brought up against false allegations of abuse and losing their children. Family courts are overburdened and women are hell-bent on making sure the fathers of their children never have a relationship with their kids. This in itself is child abuse of the most tragic form. Even more tragically, the court system is helping this to happen and soon we will be a nation of fatherless children.

Closing off avenues of love and support available to a child from their father and his family is cruel and selfish. By manipulating the child into putting up barriers and using the child as a pawn in their selfish game of revenge violates the child’s trust in a most cruel manner. Plain and simple, these mothers alienate and kidnaps the child and steals the child’s soul. Therefore, she and those around her are committing child cruelty and abuse. The bottom line is, one parent has no reason they can justify by ending a child’s contact with the other parent. The obvious intention to drive a wedge between the child and the other parent in hopes the child will continue to find fault and begin to hate the other parent exacerbates emotional abuse and there are catastrophic long-term ill effects that will likely afflict the child.

So tell me please, who defines just what really is in the best interest of the children? Child Protective Services who have failed hundreds of thousands of children nationwide by separating them from fathers who wanted nothing more than to be fathers and share parental rights? Family court judges? The lawyers who’s hands are tied by antiquated laws that do not protect fathers/men? Women who can file bogus domestic violence orders one after the other for years and ruin a man emotionally and financially (and their lawyers know this yet they continue to humor them because “that is their right.”)? Please tell me, who really has the best interest of the children in mind?

Janie Duckworth

Vienna